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Should you have sex on the first date? Well here is the answer according to the new dating guide! Please read below afterwards for my opinion!

Yes you CAN have sex on the first date! New dating guide turns The Rules on their head with advice on everything from sexting to dating dress codes.

 A new dating guide is challenging conventional wisdom by telling women it's fine to have sex on the first date.

Andrea Syrtash and Jeff Wilser, authors of the new dating guide It’s Okay To Sleep with Him on the First Date: And Every Other Rule of Dating, Debunked told the New York Post that the current crop of dating guides are 'of another era'. 

They explain that while women have some valid reasons for waiting to get horizontal, the fear that men may brand them 'undateable' should not be one of them.

'We don't think "This one’s girlfriend material because she waited a month, and that one’s booty-call material because she came back to my place,"' Wilser writes.

'The mere act of waiting does not magically create chemistry.'

Some of the other 'don'ts' that we should now 'do' include dating a co-worker, being too picky, hooking up with someone who isn't age-appropriate and not throwing in the towel after bad sex.

They also point out that, even though you don't need to wear high heels and a dress on a first date you should still strive to look 'hot' and 'approachable' without being 'overdone' and avoid 'oversize, baggy clothes that make you look like an old woman who lives in a shoe.'

Another piece of so-called wisdom the authors hate is that 'nice' is synonymous with 'weak'.

Being kind, thoughtful and having good character are always turn-ons.

Wilsner claims it's also a myth that most men marry high-maintenance bitches. 'A woman should be strong, independent, empowered and self-sufficient. But the word for that kind of behavior is not "bitch". It's "woman".'

And if your date says anything really alarming - like the girl Wilsner dated who said she was 'into slavery' - well, at least you know sooner rather than later.

The authors advice if you don't fall in love at first sight or sex isn't instantly earth-shattering? Give it time, because sex early in a relationship can be super awkward. Wilser cautions, however, that if you only get the look of love when wearing beer goggles or the idea of kissing your partner 'gives you the willies', it's time to bail out.

'You need to take risks in love,' Syrtash insists. 'Some of the best stories I’ve heard about people who find love feature those who broke dating rules.'

Now my opinion on this article is the total opposite of what is said here. Do I believe it’s right to have sex on a first date? NO I don’t. If you give a guy everything on the first date, then they have nothing to return for because they have had it all from you in one night, and I have spoken to other men about this as well as Jake and women are still looked upon as being a SLAG so NO don’t do it. Let it happen after a few dates if possible and then if they come back, you know that they are interested and if not well at least you still have your pride and your self respect. Sex these days is more of a recreational activity instead of an expression of love for one another and it would be nice that we could actually keep a few of the old traditions alive. Let the men chase us and keep them interested by not giving them everything because once you have….it has got a little too serious a little too soon. So ladies keep your self respect and say NO to sex on a first date!!

LilyBee xxx